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    Invisibilia

    Flip the Script

    Usually when someone is hostile to us, we are hostile right back. The psychological term is "complementarity." But then in rare cases someone manages to be warm, and what happens as a result can be surprising.

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    By Alix Spiegel • Jul 16, 2016 • 1 min read

    The episode starts with a story about a dinner party in DC, when an attempted robbery was foiled by... a glass of wine and some cheese. Then we travel across the pond, to Denmark, where police officers are attempting to combat the growing problem of Islamic radicalization with... love. And finally, we talk to a man who attempted to flip the script on one of our most basic animal functions: finding a mate.

    Learn more or listen again to this week's episode.

    Image: Kristen Uroda for NPR

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      Alix Spiegel

      Co-Host of NPR's 'Invisibilia'

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      Co-host of NPR's 'Invisibilia'

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      senior editor, The Atlantic, co-host of the podcast We Live Here Now

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      Producer of NPR's 'Invisibilia'

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