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Press Play with Madeleine Brand

‘The Big Hurt’: A woman’s search for intimacy and acknowledgment

Erika Schickel’s new memoir, “The Big Hurt,” is about how she blew up her marriage and family for an affair with a famous LA crime novelist, and how that echoed an experience she had in high school, when she was kicked out of her East Coast…

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By Madeleine Brand • Oct 1, 2021 • 48m Listen

Erika Schickel’s new memoir, “The Big Hurt,” is about how she blew up her marriage and family for an affair with a famous LA crime novelist, and how that echoed an experience she had in high school, when she was kicked out of her East Coast boarding school for sleeping with a music teacher.

“My whole life, I had been looking for the connection I had been denied by my mother. … I was just trying to find home. And I was in a loveless marriage. … I was starved for intimacy, and by that, I don't just mean sex. I mean the whole thing … being understood, being seen, recognized, acknowledged,” she says.

Press Play also gets reviews for the latest film releases: “The Many Saints of Newark,” “Titane,” a restoration of “Hester Street,” and “The Jesus Music.”

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